Playing Both Ways (Without Being Bi)
TikTok video from 2022-02-25
The short answer? Yes—I’ve done it both ways.
I’ve had incredible experiences with two men and me, and also with two women and one guy. And every time, it’s been fun, respectful, and filled with curiosity and laughter. People often assume that to enjoy group play or threesomes, you have to fit a certain mold or label. But that’s just not the case.
Let me be clear: I’m not bisexual. I know that surprises some people, especially when they hear about the kinds of playful, exploratory situations I’ve been part of. But here’s the thing—sexuality isn’t always about labels. It’s about connection, communication, and finding joy in shared experience.
When I’m in a space with more than one partner—whether it’s two men, two women, or a mix—it’s about chemistry, not categories. We all find ways to play together that honor our preferences and boundaries. No one’s forced to do anything they’re uncomfortable with, and everyone’s tuned in to making sure we’re creating a space that feels safe and satisfying for all.
In the case of two men and me, it’s a unique dynamic. There’s an energy there—both playful and powerful—that brings out something different in all of us. There’s attention, rhythm, and a kind of shared intention to create pleasure and connection. And when it’s me, another woman, and a guy? It’s a different energy, but just as special. There’s room for softness, for laughter, for creativity—and yes, sometimes for surprise.
Even though I’m not sexually attracted to women, I’ve found ways to be physically close and affectionate in ways that feel fun and natural. It’s not about performing or pretending—it’s about showing up honestly and seeing what feels good in the moment. That’s the beauty of play when everyone’s being honest about what they want. (Did you read about my threesome with Luke at the swinger’s event? Find it here.)
Group dynamics don’t have to be complicated. They just require communication. The best experiences come when everyone is clear about their desires, their boundaries, and their curiosities—and when there’s room to check in, laugh, and adjust as you go.
So yes. I’ve done it both ways. And no, I’m not bi. And still—yes to play, yes to pleasure, yes to exploration.
Because you don’t need a label to have a good time. You just need honesty, openness, and people who want to make the experience joyful for everyone involved.
Got questions about group play, mixed dynamics, or how to navigate it all with clarity and confidence? I’m always happy to share more.
