Swinging into Something New with Luke
TikTok video from 2022-02-11
Luke and I are having a lot of fun right now. We’re definitely the adventuresome pair. Just last weekend, we went to a swinger’s event together—my very first one, actually. And wow. What a way to dive into something new.
I was nervous at first. Swinger spaces always felt like this big, mysterious unknown. But Luke? He made it feel safe. Playful. Welcoming. He’s done this before, so having him by my side was like having a tour guide through this bold new world. And once we got there? The energy, the curiosity, the open-mindedness—it was electrifying.
We’ve also had a couple of threesomes—one with another man, one with another woman—and honestly? It’s been exciting, eye-opening, and just a whole lot of fun. There’s something beautiful about sharing space with people who are there for connection, honesty, and mutual pleasure. There’s no pretending, no posturing—just curiosity, communication, and consent.
Luke is the one who helped me realize that I could actually date someone who identifies as a swinger, someone who dates multiple people and does it well. He’s shown me that yes, those unicorns do exist—people who are careful, emotionally secure, excellent communicators, and able to manage multiple relationships with grace and intention. It’s been refreshing, honestly, to be with someone who embraces non-monogamy with both heart and clarity. By far, he’s been the best example of a hinge that I could find.
And it's not just about the adventures—it’s about the vibe between us. We talk, we laugh, we flirt like teenagers, and it all feels so easy. With Luke, there’s no pressure to be anyone other than exactly who I am. There’s freedom in that, and it’s made every moment together feel like something worth savoring.
A great example of not putting any pressure on me is this: At this event, we discussed what the evening would look like…
Him: I want to be a slut tonight!
Me: And I want to see that happen! Though, I’m not comfortable having sex with someone I don’t know.
Him: You won’t have to. But if there is something you’re interested in doing, let me know and I’ll make sure it happens for you.
So, he jumped right into the action and volunteered to demonstrate for the first half of the party… I believe the theme was The Kama Sutra, so they wanted two volunteers to demo the positions. Believe it or not, I’m really shy in crowds, so I watched… He was partnered with a submissive woman, who was “permitted” to participate with Luke, by her Dom. They wore underwear, so there was no “touch” without permission…
They had a blast contorting into the positions the announcer called out, and like a game of Twister, we all laughed, giggled, and appreciated their enthusiasm as they wriggled, writhed and squirmed into all the different poses.
When it was over, they had built up some chemistry and Luke asked for permission to fuck her, from her Dom, which he granted, and the four of us moved to a room where Dom and I could watch, while Luke and submissive got it on…
As a voyeur, this is one of my happy places… watching someone enjoy something they are doing… in relationship dynamics, it’s’ called compersion. However, Luke wasn’t going to let me get away with not participating at all! So, he invited me to join them by sitting on her face and letting her eat me out!!! What?!
I threw my lingerie to the floor and I hopped right up and she eagerly went for it. I didn’t think about it. I didn’t wonder if it was okay, or acceptable. I just went with the moment. (Pause to say, that he asked her permission and level of interest in doing it, then asked her Dom if it was okay to include me, and then got my consent as well. I include these details because it’s important to note that all play is meant to be consensual amongst all the players… Because she was in a dynamic, it's not just her permission that is necessary).
This was a first in many ways… but most of all, it was the first time I realized that swinging could be a fun and safe experience for me.
He’s here for the winter, and while we’re soaking up every minute we can, I know that soon he’ll be heading back north. But there’s hope—and intention—behind our connection. I’d love to see him again this summer if my travels take me his way. Because we have a fun connection. It’s something special. Light-hearted, joy-filled, and anchored in respect.
It’s not always easy to find people like that. But when you do, you hold on to them, however they show up. Whether it’s seasonal, long-distance, casual, or deep—every relationship that teaches you more about who you are and what you love is worth holding space for.
Have you ever been surprised by someone who shifted your whole perspective on relationships? Someone who expanded your world just by being fully themselves? Tell me—I’d love to hear your story.
