A Little Bit of This, A Little Bit of That: Molly, Orion, and My Beautifully Blended Love Life
TikTok video from 2022-02-11
Let me introduce you to a couple of special people in my life—two relationships that couldn’t be more different, and yet both bring so much richness to my world.
First, there’s Molly. She’s my girlfriend—my romantic partner—but we’re not sexual. I’m not bisexual, so intimacy with her doesn’t look the same as it does with some of my other partners. Our connection is softer, slower, and rooted in affection. Think: long hugs, cozy cuddles, shared meals, late-night talks, and the kind of care that makes you feel grounded and safe. She’s the person I want to hold hands with while watching a movie, the one I call when I want to feel emotionally held. She is the partner that I process my highs and lows with.
Honestly, it’s a romance that’s more about hearts than bodies. And that works for us. There’s no pressure for it to be anything else. If it evolves someday, I’d be open—but right now, our relationship is perfectly full just as it is. Being with Molly has taught me how beautiful it can be to share a deeply emotional bond without needing to define it with physical intimacy.
And then, there’s Orion. Orion is… well, he’s my spicy side piece. When he’s not working and we can carve out time to connect, it’s electric. Our relationship is fun, flirty, physical, and absolutely no-nonsense. We’ve been connecting this way for three years now, and somehow it still feels fresh every time. It’s low-pressure, high-pleasure, and fully consensual on every level. No drama. Just two people who really enjoy each other’s company—in and out of bed.
With Orion, there’s this playfulness that lights me up. There’s laughter, teasing, a certain rhythm to our encounters that just works. We both know what we’re there for, and we genuinely like each other as people—not just lovers. And that makes it even better.
What I love most about these relationships is how they coexist without competing. There’s no need to compare or rank. Molly brings warmth, comfort, and emotional intimacy. Orion brings sensuality, adventure, and delicious tension. They’re not trying to fill the same space in my life—and that’s the magic. They get to be exactly who they are to me, and I get to show up as exactly who I am with them.
The plus is that my husband also loves both of them. Orion and he are best buddies. They have their own relationship in the same way that Orion’s wife, Ami and I have our own friendship and we have spent our own time together going on retreats and working on projects together. The four of us have spent months at a time, living together over the winter (in FL) or summer (in IN). We’ve vacationed together and created our own little polycule.
Polyamory makes space for all of this. It allows me to love in ways that are honest and expansive, to explore different sides of myself, and to honor each connection for what it is—without expecting it to be everything.
It’s a little bit of this, a little bit of that—and it’s completely mine.
Got your own mix of loves and connections? Tell me—I’d love to hear how your heart makes room for more.
