Redefining Midlife Love: Yes, You Can Have It All
TikTok video from 2022-02-15
A recent comment sparked a realization that I wish I had known years ago: this is a choice. I didn’t know that before. I didn’t realize that love, fulfillment, and long-term partnership didn’t have to come at the cost of personal happiness or freedom. I didn’t know I could have it all.
For a long time, I thought the options were binary. You either stayed in your marriage, secretly unhappy, or you ended it altogether. I watched friends make both choices—some quietly having affairs, others filing for divorce. And the more I talked to women around my age, the more I realized how common it was. Women in their fifties were often stuck, often unhappy. I even read a statistic that the highest number of divorces were initiated by women in their fifties. They are called “Grey Divorces.” That hit me hard. Now the term “Silent Divorce” was introduced to me…
But divorce wasn’t on the table for us. We love each other. We just needed a new framework.
So we got curious. We asked ourselves, “What if there’s another way?” And from that curiosity, we found polyamory; ethical non-monogamy. A way of doing relationships that let us honor our bond and our individuality. And you know what? It worked.
It’s been a journey, no doubt. But it’s also been full of discovery, connection, and joy. That’s why I started on TikTok. It’s why I share my story. Because I want other people—especially women in midlife—to know they’re not stuck. There are more options than the ones we were taught to believe.
You can date openly. You can communicate honestly. You can create win-wins for everyone involved. You can love differently and still love deeply.
If you’re curious, if you’re at a crossroads, or if you’re just tired of feeling like you have to choose between self and relationship—I’m here to tell you: you don’t. You can have it all.
Follow along. Like, share, ask questions. Let’s talk about doing love differently.
