How Our Polyamory Journey Began: From Swinging Curiosity to Something Deeper
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So, how did this whole polyamory journey start for us? Honestly, it wasn’t some grand revelation or deeply philosophical conversation at first. We were just looking to spice things up.
We had a little history to build on: early in our marriage, we had one experience where we were in a room with another couple. We were on our bed, they were on theirs. Nothing too wild, but we’d already dipped our toes into the idea of being intimate in the same space as someone else. So the thought of swinging wasn’t completely foreign when it came back around decades later.
Fast forward 30 years—and let me tell you, things had gotten pretty... quiet. Our sex life wasn’t exactly thrilling. It wasn’t happening very often, and when it did, it felt routine. So we thought, hey, maybe it’s time to shake things up. Why not try swinging?
But then, before we even got the chance to really explore that route, something unexpected happened: my husband, and a friend of ours, decided they’d like to explore a relationship. We had joked about the three of us playing, the possibility of them having sexy time… but a relationship? (I was totally fine with it, but the timing wasn’t great.)
Instead of diving into swinging, we found ourselves face-to-face with something much more emotional and layered: polyamory.
And that’s how it started. Not through a perfectly planned decision, but through real-life feelings, honest conversations, and a willingness to evolve. We didn’t have a roadmap, but we did have a strong foundation of trust and love—and we decided to navigate this new territory together.
So no, it wasn’t one person’s idea. It was life nudging us toward something different. Something deeper. And that’s what polyamory has become for us—a way to explore, to love, to stay connected, and to grow in ways we never expected.
