The WHO Tour: Love, Play, Wax, Worship, and a New Mission Awakening
TikTok video from 2023-09-16
Oh wow. Where do I even begin?
We’ve got so much catching up to do. I didn’t even realize I could do longer videos on TikTok now, but here we are. So I figured this would be a good moment to pause, breathe, and give you the full update—from the road, from the heart, from this wild and beautiful life I’m living as Lisa, the Poly Wife.
Let’s start with the WHO Tour.
(Yes, I named it. Of course I did.)
WHO = Wiser. Hornier. Open-hearted.
That about sums it up, right?
This tour has been part road trip, part healing journey, part lover circuit, and a whole lot of “yes” to my body, my heart, and my intuition. I’ve been reconnecting with old lovers, meeting new ones, and soaking in all the beautiful, messy magic that comes from being deeply polyamorous and unapologetically me.
If you’ve been following for a while, you’ll remember back in January I went to a hypno-kink event and met a service top who goes by Giggles. (Not giving you his full name, but honestly? Giggles suits him.)
I knew I was heading back to Salt Lake, so I reached out. And as luck would have it, he was hosting a play party the weekend I arrived. Of course, I went. Of course, we played. And of course, it was amazing.
We did wax and fire play—and let me just say, it was a completely different experience than the last time I did wax with Sio. With Sio, it was sexy but intense. A bit too hot. I found myself clenching through it. But Giggles? He uses soy candles. Lower heat, more sensation, less pain—and I couldn’t stop laughing. Forty minutes of being dripped on, and I giggled the entire time. I felt alive. Joyful. Lit up from the inside.
While in Utah, I also met one of my fans (yes, that kind of fan), and surprise—incredible chemistry. Like, next-level compatibility. He's deeply poly, more so than almost anyone I've dated, and he’s a Grateful Dead fan, so we’ve dubbed him PolyHead—though here I’ll call him my Fan With Benefits (FWB).
We saw each other four times while I was there. Every moment with him was affirming, open, grounded. I felt seen. I felt met. Honestly, it’s rare to find someone who speaks poly fluently, and with him? I felt like I could finally relax into it.
After Utah, I flew home for a whole eight hours—just enough to kiss my husband (yes, we’re still on sabbatical but still deeply connected), repack, and hit the road.
Cue: the road trip phase of the WHO tour.
First stop? Tampa to Atlanta.
There, I met my friend’s roommate who practices orgasmic meditation (OM)—a technique created by Nicole Daedone that unfortunately lost credibility due to misconduct and greed, but the original concept? Beautiful.
We didn’t do a formal OM session, but we did give each other sensual body massages—and honestly, after nine hours on the road and very little sleep, it was exactly what I needed. Gentle, affirming, non-demanding touch. Heaven.
From there, I headed to the Upper Midwest and spent time with Orion and Amy. They hosted a beautiful sound and sage event at their home. And guess who joined us?
Bob. (Yes, that Bob.)
Okay, but pause. We have to rename Bob.
Because “Bob” just does not do him justice. He’s not a Bob. He’s brilliant. He’s magnetic. He’s delicious in ways I wasn’t expecting. He’s also incredibly good with marketing and coffee (and yes, that’s a layered compliment).
Anyway.
He came to the event, stayed the night, and we had a very good time together. Like, mind-blowingly good. The kind that rearranges your insides and makes you consider canceling all future plans. (Kidding. Sort of.)
He got to meet Orion and Amy, and everything just clicked. There’s something so affirming about your people meeting your people and it all just working. I’m actually heading back there soon—Amy’s off on a getaway with her boyfriend, and Orion and I will get a few days just the two of us. More sweetness. More connection. More grounding.
From Indiana, I drove to Pittsburgh to visit Chiron—my longest-running connection. We’ve been intimate since 2019, though we rarely see each other. We’re not conventional partners. We’re soulmates.
And for the first time ever, I met his nesting partner. It was… emotional. Beautiful. Like something sacred finally came full circle. To sit across from the woman he shares his everyday life with, and feel nothing but love and expansion? That’s polyamory at its best.
Now I’m here in Boston, and this week I stepped into a whole new chapter. I’m assisting my dear friend Paris in a masterclass teaching men how to give yoni massages—yes, really.
I’m acting as a yoni bunny (practice partner), and it has launched something in me I didn’t quite expect:
A new business.
I’ve realized that what I love—what I’m meant to do—is teach intimacy through body worship, especially to long-term married couples.
Touch. Reverence. Sensuality without pressure.
This is where I come alive.
So that’s what’s next.
That’s what I’m building.
The next evolution of Lisa, the Poly Wife.
I’ll be teaching, holding space, showing couples how to reclaim their connection through sacred, embodied touch.
From Boston, I’ll head back to Orion for one more visit, then home to Florida and back to my husband. Yes, we’re still on sabbatical. But this time apart? It’s working. We’re healing. Growing. Reconnecting in new ways.
And in the meantime, my heart is full.
With men I love.
Friends I cherish.
Magic I’m building.
And a body that finally feels like mine again.
If you’ve made it this far—thank you.
Your presence means the world to me.
And if you want to keep following the journey, I’ve just launched a free OF subscription site, where I’ll be sharing even more about the massage work, the classes, the intimacy, and the magic I’m creating.
Come find me there.
And in the meantime—drop me a comment. Tell me what you want to hear more about.
I’m listening.
