“Pussy Massage Instructions” – A Conversation with Janus

One of my favorite things about being in multiple loving relationships is the depth of exploration it invites—especially when it comes to pleasure.

Janus and I were lounging around one night, talking about what really makes sex great—and how often people think they know, but miss the mark. That led to this spontaneous idea: Why not record a conversation about it? So we did.

For context, I’ve been teaching Pussy Massage for a while now—sometimes with a girlfriend, sometimes solo. We offer a 2-on-1 experience (yes, exactly what it sounds like), and over 40 men have had the pleasure of learning the technique… hands-on, with me as the demo. And let me tell you—if you follow the method, you will have her giggling, squirting, and glowing.

In this episode, Janus and I unpack what it really means to create pleasure—not from performance or ego, but from presence and curiosity. I once quoted my friend Ami on this: “Approach her with curiosity, not expertise.” That wisdom still holds. Because what worked with your last lover? Might be the exact thing that shuts down the one in front of you.

And here's the kicker: A lot of women fake it. Not because we want to—but because we want it to be over. That’s the truth. And I think it's time we stopped faking and started educating.

So we hit record on a candid, no-holds-barred conversation. It’s intimate, fun, and full of little gems you didn’t know you needed. And we’re thinking of turning this into a weekly series—especially for women who want a safe space to ask real questions of a thoughtful man.

Want to listen in? Curious what Janus has to say?

Let us know what you think—and if you’d like to be part of the next one.

🎙️ For more interesting conversations, listen to The Playful Podcast: lisathepolywife.com/podcast-episodes