Mapping My Polyamorous Relationships: Love in All Its Forms
TikTok video from 2022-06-26
As a polyamorous woman who lives her truth openly, one of the most common questions I get is:
“How do all of your relationships actually work?”
It’s a fair question—especially in a world that largely assumes intimacy and love must exist between two people, in one home, with one shared calendar.
But my life—and the lives of many polyamorous people—is different. It’s expansive, layered, and deeply fulfilling. So today, I want to lay out my relationships clearly. Not for approval, but for understanding.
Because polyamory isn’t about collecting people or chasing novelty. For me, it’s about honoring each connection for what it authentically is—whether that’s romantic, sexual, platonic, or something beautifully in between.
I’m Lisa, also known as The Poly Wife.
I’m happily married. I’m in love. I’m romantically involved with multiple people. And not all of my relationships are sexual—but each one is intimate, emotionally significant, and rooted in mutual respect.
Currently, I’m navigating seven relationships—though that number might sound high, it’s important to clarify that these connections exist on a spectrum. I don’t engage with all of them daily. Some are deeply woven into my everyday life. Others are long-distance, seasonal, or rare but profound.
Let me introduce you to the key people in my life:
Everett and I have been married for 35 years. We share a home, a life, and a commitment to grow old together. We are what polyamorous communities often call nesting partners—partners who share physical and emotional infrastructure.
We are best friends. True companions. And we remain committed to one another while allowing space for other meaningful relationships.
Everett also has two girlfriends. He sees each of them a couple of times a month. His relationships are independent from mine, but equally valued.
Sapio and I have been dating for a year. We are romantically connected but not sexually active. We go to events, enjoy dinners, and spend quality time together—often sharing a bed one night per week.
Our connection is built on emotional intimacy, trust, and companionship. It's proof that romance doesn't have to be defined by physicality alone.
Orion and I have been in a relationship for three years. He lives in another state and travels often for work. Our time together is limited—typically two or three visits per year, often when he’s in Florida for professional reasons.
Despite the infrequency, our bond is strong and meaningful. We stay connected in ways that work for us, and our relationship continues to thrive in its own rhythm.
Robin is one of the great loves of my life. We are not sexually involved, but we are deeply romantic and emotionally committed.
Our relationship challenges mainstream expectations of what love should look like. It’s a connection filled with care, vulnerability, and long-term vision—without the need for physical intimacy to validate it.
Chiron is a unique presence in my life. We don’t see each other often—maybe once a year—and we only exchange messages a few times annually. But our connection runs deep.
We consider each other soulmates. He is what I call an orbital love—not central in my daily life, but part of my emotional orbit, always there in some quiet, meaningful way.
Lambo and I dated briefly. We had a genuine connection, but ultimately, he identified as monogamous. When he met someone he wanted to date exclusively, we parted ways with mutual understanding.
I celebrate his choice because it was true to him—and that’s what conscious relationship is all about.
At its core, polyamory allows me to experience love in its many forms—not in competition, but in complement. Each relationship brings out something different in me, and together, they create a life that feels full, connected, and grounded.
Some partners are lifelong companions. Some are seasonal. Some are long-distance. Some are romantic without being sexual. Others are intimate in less obvious ways.
Polyamory works in my life because:
We communicate openly.
We practice ongoing consent.
We honor the uniqueness of each relationship.
And above all, we know that love is not a finite resource. It’s abundant, dynamic, and ever-evolving.
If you’re new to polyamory or simply curious, I hope this post offers some clarity—not about how you should love, but about what’s possible when we stop trying to fit relationships into rigid boxes.
Whether you love one person or many, what matters is that your relationships are honest, intentional, and aligned with who you truly are.
For me, this is what love looks like:
Complex. Colorful. And completely my own.
