Abundance Begins with Gratitude (Yes, Even in Polyamory)
TikTok video from 2022-05-04
I create an attitude of abundance by choosing gratitude—every single day. And no, I don’t mean just when things are going well. I mean especially on the days when scarcity creeps in.
Scarcity is sneaky. It shows up as insecurity. As jealousy. As the feeling that I’m not enough—or that what I have isn’t enough. That maybe I’m missing out, or someone else has it better. We all feel it. Polyamory doesn’t magically erase those feelings; it invites us to look at them with honesty.
So when scarcity tries to take the wheel, I pause.
I look at what I have. And wow—I have a lot.
I have love. So much love. Romantic love, yes—but also friendship, camaraderie, chosen family. I have deep conversations and belly laughs. I have multiple relationships that challenge me to grow and make me feel alive in different ways. My husband of 30+ years, who knows me down to my bones. My boyfriend Sapio, who brings a spark and connection I treasure. Lovers, play partners, metas, and friends who see and celebrate the real me.
I have community. I have you. The people who read, listen, respond, and reach out with their own stories and curiosity. I may not have a million followers, but I have an incredible collection of hearts who get it—who are walking their own path and tuning in with love. That’s a kind of wealth that no algorithm can measure.
And yes, I have stuff. Too much of it, honestly. But even that reminds me: I’m not lacking. I’m supported. Safe. Provided for. And that kind of stability is what allows me to explore, take risks, and expand into more love and freedom.
Gratitude keeps me grounded.
It reminds me that I don’t have to chase, compare, or prove. I just have to look around. I don’t need to “get more” to feel whole—I just need to honor what I already have.
Abundance isn’t about accumulation. It’s about presence. It's about looking at your life and saying, "This is mine. I chose this. I created this. And I am thankful for it."
And that’s what keeps my cup full—even when things get messy or uncertain.
So today, maybe ask yourself:
What are you grateful for that money, followers, or status could never buy?
That answer? That’s your abundance.
