Poly Spring Vibes: Wax, Wounds, and Weekend Getaways

TikTok video from 2023-03-14

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I’m sitting here with a full heart, a busy calendar, and the sense that this year—this wild, beautiful year—is unfolding just the way it needs to.

And I wanted to share a little slice of what that looks like for me, Lisa, the Poly Wife.
If you’re new here, hi. I’ve been married for 35 years, and about four and a half years ago, my husband and I opened up our marriage. Since then, my world has become so much richer, more nuanced, and more me.

Right now? I’ve got the juiciest week ahead. So here’s a little peek at what’s been going on.

Today: Seeing My Vanilla Sadist

Yes, you read that right—my vanilla sadist. He doesn’t play in a dungeon or wield floggers, but he knows how to tap into my masochistic pleasure with a calm, centered intensity that surprises me every time. There’s no leather or rope in sight—just firm hands, knowing eyes, and a rhythm of dominance that meets me right where I need to be met. It’s quiet kink. And I love it.

This Week: A Four-Year Anniversary with Orion

Orion is one of the great loves of my life. If you know me, you know Orion.

We met four years ago, just a few months after opening our marriage. He and his wife traveled down to visit us, and from the start, there was something grounding, sweet, and expansive about our connection.

We’re celebrating our anniversary with a little vacation—some sunshine, slow mornings, fireside chats, maybe some sneaky afternoon delights. This is our rhythm. Deep connection, long-distance patience, and reunions that feel like home.

Later This Week: Swinging, Luke, and That Couple…

Yes, that couple. The one Luke and I had an incredible full swap experience with a few weeks ago. We’re meeting up again, and I’m really looking forward to it. There’s something playful, grounded, and sexy about how we all communicate—so I know this next encounter is going to be both hot and emotionally tuned-in.

If you’ve ever wondered how swinging fits into a polyamorous life, here’s my answer: it can, beautifully—if everyone’s clear, honest, and having fun.

A Pause with the Wizard

I had a really heartfelt chat with the Wizard. Timing, as they say, is everything—and right now, life is throwing a lot at him. His kid’s moved in, he’s managing a huge transition, and while the connection between us is real, it’s not the right time to deepen it.

So we pressed pause. Six months. No pressure. Just space to breathe.

Because in polyamory, love doesn’t have to mean urgency. Sometimes, loving someone means giving them time.

Sapio’s Glow-Up: From Daddy Dom to Wax Guru

Sapio is absolutely thriving. He’s in a new dynamic as Daddy to a Little, and he’s beaming—telling me sweet, funny, affectionate stories that make me grin. I love watching people I care about bloom in new roles.

And, fun fact? He’s become a master of wax play. He’s literally teaching classes now. And guess what? I was the first person he ever did wax play with.

That’s the kind of “poly pride” I carry in my heart. Being part of someone’s firsts. Watching them evolve. Knowing I was one soft, sticky step on their expansion path.

Chiron: Healing, Creating, Thriving

Chiron had surgery last week and came through with flying colors—thank Goddess. He’s got a lot going on: his book is being published, and he’s working on a play that might open in April. If I can sneak away to attend the premiere, you know I will.

This man holds a beautiful place in my heart. Creative, resilient, and deeply soulful. Supporting him isn’t just about showing up—it’s about honoring the artist-lover in him.

Date Night with Bravo (and My Husband’s New Girlfriend)

Last night was unexpectedly lovely. Bravo and I had a cozy, connected date night—and yes, I also had dinner with my husband and his new girlfriend.

That might sound unusual to some, but to me? It’s family. It’s evolution. It’s building something flexible and fluid and joyful, where everyone gets to be seen, held, and loved.

Looking Ahead…

This week is a full-spectrum kind of week: pleasure, anniversaries, transitions, re-connections, soft landings, and fierce support.

It’s what polyamory looks like for me—not just multiple partners, but multiple emotional textures. Laughter. Stillness. Heartbreak. Turn-on. All woven together in a rhythm that fits my life.

I’m not managing a spreadsheet of hookups. I’m nurturing relationships—with people, with desires, with my past selves, and with who I’m becoming.

So yes—it’s going to be a fabulous year.

Are you curious about what a week in the life of a polyamorous woman really looks like? Got questions about nesting partners, swinging, sadists, or wax play? I’m an open book—ask away.

Because if there’s one thing I’ve learned: honest connection heals everything. And pleasure makes it a whole lot more fun.