Giggles, Trust, and Two Hours of Yes: Why Negotiation Is the Sexiest Part of Kink
TikTok video from 2023-02-09
I have to tell you about Giggles.
Yes, that’s really what he goes by—and honestly? It fits. He made me laugh for hours, but even more than that, he made me feel safe, seen, and fully in my body in a way I didn’t quite expect. And it all started with a two-hour negotiation.
Let me back up.
I met Giggles at a hypno-kink meetup in Salt Lake City. I know. It already sounds like a wild story—and it is—but not in the way you might think. It wasn’t chaotic or reckless or edgy for shock value. It was intentional. And that’s what made it so good.
We connected through conversation—smart, slow, present conversation—and after talking for a while, he asked if I’d be interested in doing a four-letter play scene with him. For those of you who are new here, I’m talking about BDSM. Not the scary, movie-version kind. The kind built on trust, consent, and clear agreements.
And Giggles? He had a process.
Before we did anything—anything—we sat down and negotiated for two hours.
Two full hours of talking through:
What I wanted to explore
What I absolutely didn’t want
What I was curious about
What my body tends to do under pressure
What my limits were
What would happen if I got overwhelmed
What I needed afterward to feel grounded and cared for
What my safe words would be
Whether or not I wanted to orgasm/have sex/touch or be touched in a sexual way
What (if any) medical conditions I had/he had
He didn’t rush it. He didn’t push. He didn’t assume. He asked. He explained. He checked in. And with every word, every clarifying question, every moment of eye contact, he built something incredibly rare: trust.
By the time we began to play, I felt held. Not in a cradled, soft way (though that came later), but in a way that told my body, You are safe here. You are in control—even when you let go.
We played for about an hour and a half. It was sensory, playful, tender, and intense in all the best ways. He read my body like a language. He adjusted constantly. He made me laugh—really laugh—while also helping me access parts of myself I hadn’t touched before.
And a week later?
We played again.
Because that trust was real. Because my body remembered. Because I had said yes, and meant it, and had been respected in every second of that yes. Because once you experience what true consent-based play feels like, it changes you. It recalibrates what you think connection can look like.
I’ve done a lot of growing in the last few years. I’ve explored kink and polyamory and the edges of sensation and emotional intimacy. But this experience? This one with Giggles? It reminded me that the sexiest thing in the world isn’t the rope, the paddle, or the blindfold.
It’s the negotiation.
The before.
The moment where someone shows you they’re not just there to play with your body—but to hold your experience with care.
So yes. He’s called Giggles.
And yes, I giggled.
But underneath the laughter was something solid, grounded, and deeply erotic:
The safety to be myself—and to explore something new because someone took the time to ask
Have you ever experienced that level of care in a negotiation? Or are you curious about how consent-based kink works in real life (not just in fiction)? Let’s talk. Because trust is sexy. And laughter? Even sexier.
